Welcome to Friday Charm School. Up to this point, we've been studying how to move. But there is another equally important component to presenting yourself as a lady: how you sound. Every day, you reveal yourself to others not only through what you say, but how you say it. You may be exquisitely groomed from head to toe, you may present yourself as a graceful, well mannered lady, but it only takes a single sentence from your lips in a high whining tone or a phrase filled with off-color language to ruin the entire effect.
Remember the story of Eliza Doolittle in My Fair Lady? Henry Higgins realized he couldn't pass a common street vendor off as a lady until he taught her how to speak properly.
Because the voice is so deeply entwined with emotions and the expression of personality, any lack of self-confidence or fear will be communicated with your words. Hopefully all the previous lessons about sitting, walking, and moving like a lady have contributed to pride in yourself, and that will automatically translate to a more assured and pleasing speaking voice.
Have you ever listened to your voice? If not, sit in front of a video camera or tape recorder and have a conversation with a friend or family member. If using a video camera, point the lens away from you facing a plain wall so you can concentrate on the sound of your voice when watching it back, and not your movements. Listen to the conversation several times. Check for both undesirable vocal habits and speech habits.
Vocal habits to avoid:
Shrill or whining tone Loud dominating tone Too soft timid tone Monotonous pitch
Speech habits to avoid:
Mumbling Talking too fast and slurring words together Lack of enunciation Slang phrases Filler sounds - uh, um, you know, like Use of off color language or swear words
Make a list of the poor vocal and speech habits you need to work on to correct. Then start listening to yourself as you talk during the day. Become more aware of what you are saying and how you are saying it. It also helps to listen to others around you and privately analyze their vocal patterns. You'll soon learn to "hear" and start to naturally correct your poor speech habits.
When listening to the recording of your self, you may be surprised to find your speech filled with slang expressions, swear words or annoying filler sounds that you weren't aware you were using. By becoming aware of them, you are halfway toward eliminating them. If necessary, make a game of it and start "fining" yourself a dime or a quarter each time you use one. Enlist the help of family or friends to help you notice your use of these speech habits. With persistence, you'll soon find they're gone.
The best way to work on improving your voice and speech is to read aloud. Choose a quiet time and a private space. Choose reading material that requires discriminative thinking and the full use of your imagination. Try classic poetry or Shakespeare. Read Jane Eyre again, this time out loud. Buy a copy of Bartlett's Familiar Quotations and practice one in front of the mirror every morning before heading out the door. Become aware of your voice and speech patterns, and strive to sound like a lady at all times!
Can I just scream a big HOLLA! when I heard the news that my fav clothing store - Uniqlo - is opening its store in Malaysia soon! What a great welcome to the South East Asia region after it made a debut in the neighborhood Singapore recently. I can say that from now on... no matter where I am, in London or Kuala Lumpur (or even Singapore) i can still buy my fav skinny jeans.
Where's the store gonna open? In the heart of KL shopping district, the Golden Triangle. It's gonna take over the used-to-be Fahrenheit 88 (or KL Plaza) and spans to over 2140 sq m in 3 floors. That's gonna be as massive as their flagship store in Oxford Street, London or Rue Scribe in Paris.
So, people in Malaysia - starts rejoicing coz now you can have a taste of unique clothing that the world's famous brand got to offer. What's more? You can also get your hands on the much-talked about the Jil Sander for Uniqlo, +J collection, which is the super-affordable, ongoing designer collaboration on the highstreet brand.
Me? I just can't wait to check the price tag themselves. Would it be as similar to pound sterling-conversion prices? Or would it be overpriced like Zara Malaysia? Or could it be much cheaper than ever, since the mothership in Japan is actually nearer to this region instead. All will be revealed in a couple of weeks time. As for now... let's just pray it's gonna be cheaper! Ahaks!
(and do check the 'uniqlo' tag on the left pane in this blog or type 'uniqlo' on the search box if you wanna see my previous snooping at London's Uniqlo)
